Dead end

J.crew sweater • Gap jeans • Cypres heels

I have a hairdressers appointment on Saturday morning. It’s been a long time coming, but I think I have officially lost my battle against the dead, dry and split ends that have been disfiguring my long hair for a few years now. It started with an inch, but at this moment my hair is very damaged up to my shoulders. Cutting off the split ends I spot, or even completely pulling out the hairs no longer suffices. And the latter really hurts, too. 

I never really used to go to the hairdresser on a regular schedule, but I’ve been going every 6 weeks since I decided to grow my bangs out three years ago. I get the tips trimmed and have a special treatment (heavenly massage, yeah!), but after only one day the ends of my hair are already split again right where they got cut off. That is SO frustrating. It’s a mystery to both me and my hairdresser why my hair breaks this easily. I never blow-dry it, I never use a styling iron nor any hair products. I wash my hair only two to three times a week with a special shampoo and use a conditioner every time. But nothing helps. I hate it. I just hate it. 

The past two days I checked countless Pinterest boards to search for inspiration, but I’m just not sure about it. I know it must sound ridiculous and that it’s only hair we’re talking about, but I’ve been saving the length of my hair for 5 years and it’s still only just hangs over my shoulders. My co-workers gave me some pep-talk about how good a long bob would suit me, and held up my hair to show their ideas and K tried his best by saying that it is my hair and I should do with it what I want. Boyfriends are never helpful with these things, now are they? So today I turn to you, my friends. In two days time, my hairdresser is going to give me a verdict I already dread to hear. “we’re going to have to cut it shoulder-length”. What should my answer be? Yes or no? 

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  1. 24 October 2013 / 20:26

    I say yes! Hair change is always good, especially when you were stuck with one hair length for a few years. You'll find yourself even fitting your style to your new hair and changing make-up, you'll see.

  2. Sabrina Kwan
    24 October 2013 / 20:29

    Eep, I hate making hair decisions too! Even the decision to cut it an inch or two is a big deal to me. Your hair is such a gorgeous colour, I think that's what'll make your hair lovely either way, even if a shorter cut isn't what you hoped for.



  3. laurein h
    24 October 2013 / 20:43

    Gezien uw kleur kunt ge voor kort gaan, gaat u zeker staan! Ik vond mijne Bob heel tof, maar ik sta beter met lang. En is zeker makkelijk te onderhouden, staartje of dot en hup..
    Ik zou zeggen doe is zot meid πŸ˜‰

  4. 24 October 2013 / 20:50

    Yes, cut it shoulder length. At least it will look healthy. I loved my long hair, but it thinned out when it got longer then shoulder length. I look best in a long bob. I'm taking hair vitamins now, so hopefully I'll see if I can grow it long again.

  5. 24 October 2013 / 20:54

    Do it!!!! I always tell myself it will grow back πŸ™‚ I get my hair cut on November 9. Not sure exactly what I am going to do, but I am definitely going to keep it short!!

  6. 24 October 2013 / 21:06

    A heart sweater! Love it! You could always just have your hairdresser cut an inch or two off to preserve the length but get rid of the spit ends! I think a long bob would suit you though!

  7. alex
    24 October 2013 / 21:46

    Cute sweater and I love the shoes! Alex

  8. Kirsten Wiemer
    24 October 2013 / 22:53

    i've definitely had my fair share of growing out my hair problems. basically it wont grow any longer than it is now, depressing. However, I most definitely think you could pull off a long bob. You have a slender face and it would look beautiful. I would say healthy short hair will look a million times better than long dead hair. i've had to do the same thing before and my hair is so much healthier and i love it I actually just cut off two inches and my hair just feels so much better. So I would say go for it, take the plunge and it will be a fun change!

  9. 24 October 2013 / 23:06

    I completely get you Nikki, I've been letting my hair grow for a while now and finally have it the way I like it, after almost 5 years now, so I can imagine the way you feel now, and yes, it's only hair, but for women is a big part of us! If you have tried anything to make your hair healthier and nothing works out, maybe it's time to make a change. You are really beautiful and you will look beautiful as well with your hair shorter, the thing is, you have to be confident with that and own it, and shoulder-length is not that short, so my advice is go for it! πŸ™‚

  10. 25 October 2013 / 02:27

    Okay, so personally I loved my hair shorter, so I might be biased.

    Here's the thing though- would it make a difference in your day and how you can treat your hair and/or how you might style your hair. If you are throwing it in a bun or ponytail all the time, might not be worth it being long. If you truly love it long and have it down and/or do things with it, why not ask if there are other things you can do to keep it long. There is always another hair cut in 6 weeks if you want to try shorter then.

    Basically, I think you'd look great in shorter hair and enjoy it myself, but you gotta do what you like.

  11. 25 October 2013 / 09:24

    First of all, really do what you want, you have to touch it and look at it every day! But then again, I think shoulder length would still look gorgeous!


  12. 25 October 2013 / 10:33

    Gewoon doen!!! En jongens zien nu eenmaal liever lang haar! Maar niet laten tegenhouden! Gaat je goed staan!

  13. JC Carter
    25 October 2013 / 13:25

    I have a friend who has a similar problem and she has been
    trying baking soda instead of shampoo and cider vinegar as a conditioner. It’s
    been working well for her the last few months. Maybe that could work for you?

    I personally always like long hair but you can always try
    it short. Hair after all does grow.

  14. Bas Raad
    25 October 2013 / 13:50

    Nooooo leave it long! That's just my opinion. But more importantly, how stunning are your legs in this jeans+shoes combo??! And I don't even use the word stunning, urrgghh.

  15. Emily
    25 October 2013 / 13:53

    No, men just don't know what to say! At least he is being kind.

    Have you considered that it might be a health condition that is making your hair so breakable? I was hypothyroid and it was making my hair fall out. I was so upset because I would put my hair into a ponytail and I could see my scalp. It's doing better now that I've gotten treatment but it still isn't what I want it to be.

    If it's just the way your hair is – I hope you can find a way to stop the breakage. Maybe a good chop is what it needs to stop the split end problem. So I would say to go for it if your hairdresser suggests a shoulder length cut.

    Your hair has always looked beautiful to me when I see pictures of it on your blog!

  16. 25 October 2013 / 13:54

    I think you'll look older and super professional with a long bob, and that makes me sad. Although I'm probably just dealing with a personal crisis about growing up, ever.

  17. 25 October 2013 / 15:26

    Such a cute sweater! And Ia m very much in love with the color of your hair!

  18. Kaysie G
    25 October 2013 / 18:06

    My hair used to grow so incredibly slowly, and I treated it like a fragile baby who needed extra space. But then I got really brave and donated 13 inches to Locks of Love. That part helped a bit, because I wasn't just throwing it away. And! When it grew back, it grew back insanely fast and a little thicker. I say, go for something that you're scared to do to it – it's only hair, it will come back. And the change may make you feel awesome! Try looking at Rachel McAdams, your hair seems similarly textured and hers always looks great!

  19. 25 October 2013 / 18:48

    I think you're better of having shorter hair that's healthy, once you get rid of the dead weight your ends should look so much fuller πŸ™‚ I got +/- 10-15cm chopped off because I was so in love with some of the shorter hairstyles of YouTubers and bloggers, I'm sure it would look equally good on you! And if you're really not sure, maybe just cut a little off to get used to the idea? But in the end it's all up to you πŸ™‚

  20. nancy @ adore to adorn
    25 October 2013 / 18:55

    Hair is a bigger deal than I even care to admit. So I relate to your struggles! =)

    Lovely look. I adore that sweater. It's so sweet and charming! One of my favorites from you!


  21. 25 October 2013 / 23:18

    I love the heart print top! πŸ™‚

    Your hair is so lovely long, but even if you do cut it to your shoulders, it will grown back πŸ™‚ Maybe the cut will help strengthen it so it doesn't split as much, and it will grow back quicker? Not really sure if hair works that way…but maybe! πŸ™‚

    Away From The Blue

  22. Bea
    26 October 2013 / 07:40

    I know what you feel about hair….I feel the same!They have to be long!
    But a shoulder-length is ok!
    Have a nice cut!!!
    And a great weekend!

  23. petra lorietta
    26 October 2013 / 11:18

    the sweater is so cute!:) and I just love your hair!β™₯ honestly, I can't see any split ends in the photos! My hair's very dry and frizzy (by nature) and I usually ask my hairdresser to cut only 2 centimeters once a month. I think it's enoughβ™₯

  24. 26 October 2013 / 12:45

    Lovely! The jumper is soo cute;)
    Great blog, following x
    Kisses x

  25. 26 October 2013 / 13:01

    Ik zou het schouderlengte laten knippen. Het gaat je haar veel gezonder maken en dan groeit het ook weer sneller! Daarbij ik denk ook dat dat je keigoed gaat staan! Maar I know the feeling, een beetje een sprong in het duister. Alvast veel succes er mee, ik kan al niet wachten om het resultaat te zien! πŸ™‚

  26. Vanessa {Found&Kept}
    26 October 2013 / 20:08

    I hope you are happy with your hair after your visit πŸ™‚ I'm sure it'll look darling.

  27. Mademoiselle Sophistique
    27 October 2013 / 08:40

    superleuke trui! je outfit is weer helemaal top als altijd πŸ™‚

  28. EnterKelly
    27 October 2013 / 22:48

    Ugh being forced to make decisions like that totally sucks. But honestly, I think you could pull it off. And worst case, if you hate it you don't have to keep it that length. It's not impossible for it to grow back, even if it does take a while. πŸ™‚

  29. audrey
    27 October 2013 / 23:39

    Mooie trui. Ik zou het knippen. Kdenk dat een lange bob idd mooi zo passen bij jou. Ik heb net als jou ong. 5 jaar rond gelopen met lang haar ( geloof zelfs dat het nog langer was) en ik was et gwn beu dus heb ik het dan in een korte Bob laten snijden. Ik moet zeggen heb er nog geen moment spijt van gehad. Ja er zijn dagen dat ik op pinterest kweetnie oe mooie lange kapsels tegen kom maar voor het moment ben ik blij met mijn Bob. En het is maar haar e, als je het echt niet mooi vind kan je het altijd laten groeien.

    X Audrey

  30. 28 October 2013 / 11:49

    yes, beter gezond haar dan lang kapot haar. en lang haar is zo overrated!

  31. 29 October 2013 / 01:00

    I hear ya lady.mI take biotin daily for strong hair & nails, both are naturally very brittle for me, that and lots of moisterization! You have beautiful red hair, so maybe that is your hair gift πŸ˜‰


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  32. 29 October 2013 / 01:53

    I envy your hair! It looks great at this length but I'm sure it would be pretty shoulder length, too!

  33. 29 October 2013 / 09:48

    Ik heb dezelfde frustratie maar bij iets langere lengte, iedere keer dat ik verder wil groeien breekt mijn haar af. Mijn kapper beweert dat sommige mensen hun haar gewoon niet verder kan groeien dan een bepaalde lengte. Tenzij we een zeer zuiders type zijn zal ons haar nooit megalang worden (aldus hem). Ik denk dat schouderlengte u wel echt mooi zal staan! Beter gezond en glanzend dan broos en breekbaar. Wat ik ook doe (en wat wel helpt) is mijn haar uitspoelen met koud water na het wassen, dan sluit het beter en is het minder breekbaar heb ik al gemerkt. Trouwens mooie pull ook πŸ™‚

  34. 29 October 2013 / 10:04

    Ik ga er ook een stukje van doen, want mijn punten zijn echt helemaal kapot. Haar groeit toch snel Γ©n het zal er veel beter uitzien, veel volume enzo!

  35. 30 October 2013 / 08:44

    Ik zou er een stuk afknippen, je gaat daar goed mee staan denk ik πŸ™‚

  36. Gracy
    2 November 2013 / 12:47

    je zou mooi staan met een stukje korter. En wauw wat zie je er schattig uit πŸ™‚

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