Okay okay. One more day of sunshine for my milky white legs. The weather has been kind to us the past two days with mild temperatures and a weak, but shining sun in the sky. My first day at this new university felt a lot less perfect.
I got extremely nervous for the introduction session yesterday at noon. So much so, that I did not eat any breakfast or lunch and those who know me well, will know that that’s not very normal. With my body running on nothing but pure adrenaline I walked around my corner to the M-building, where the session was planned. I love that I live this close to my classrooms now. There were a lot of people there. And I even knew two of them! One had been in High School with me – um, three years ago already? – and a girl that studied Social Work with me was waiting there as well. You do not want to know how awkward I felt when both failed to recognize me and I was left standing in the middle of a giant mass of first-time students with no one to talk to. I suddenly felt incredibly lonely. The session past, still not talking. I went to the boyfriends apartment while he was out celebrating the new school year with his friends, and played the new GTA5 until my eyes couldn’t handle the TV-light anymore. The boyfriend and his friends came by with pizzas and then I went to my own place again. My upstairs neighbors were throwing a party while I crawled into bed and felt the tears coming. What the hell am I doing?
Today was better. I bought Oreo’s (always a good idea) and went to my first class. At first I was alone again. But then a girl came in and asked if she could sit next to me. Hallelujah. We talked a little, not too much. Then our class got cancelled and the magic was broken. But it raised my spirits enough so that I am now writing this blog post instead of playing GTA. Well… Maybe I’m still in the mood for a game. Let’s go play!
And I’m sorry for the poor image quality. Blogger’s uploading system is to blame!
Mademoiselle Sophistiqué says
ugh wat stom zeg! het zal wel snel beteren 🙂 eerste dag is altijd een beetje awkward.. Mijn vriendjes komen allemaal pas volgende week naar de les dus ik ben de eerste week ook helemaal alleen.. maar ach, zo let ik beter op 😉
Aw, I am sorry you had such a rough day 🙁 You look looooovely in that dress though!
Sweet Love and Ginger says
First days are always tough. I transfered to a new college and didn't know a sole with a roomate I had never met (she turned out to be crazy with a capital C). It took some time but I eventually made friends, many of whom are my best friends still today. Just give it some time.
Eerste dagen zijn altijd moeilijk. Ik zie mijzelf ook nog altijd die gigantische aula binnenkomen op mijn eerste schooldag aan de unief. Morgen heb ik kennismaking met de masterstudenten, waarvan ik ook niemand écht ken. Ben dus ook een beetje zenuwachtig, maar geloof mij, het went met de jaren. Nu ik al 3 jaar 'zelfstandig' ben en vaak ook wel eens alleen in de les zit, ben ik getraind in contacten leggen. Al is het maar een kort gesprekje, er zijn zovéél mensen die alleen zijn. Meer dan je denkt! Nog heel veel succes de komende dagen, die eerste week (en het komende jaar) is zo snel om, geloof mij!
danielle marshall says
Sorry your first day wasn't the best! I always worked myself up on the first day, and they usually ended badly. I am sure once you get into the swing of things, everything will work out 🙂
first days are always the hardest! het komt wel goed.. Veel suces!
A lot of first days go like that. You just started! Don't give up 🙂 When I started college, I didn't know anyone either. But now I've been graduated for a few years and am STILL hanging out with the life-long friends I made while I was there.
At least you looked adorable!
You will meet people. Its tough, but it will happen. I had a terrible and lonely first semester at my last uni. I finally started meeting people when I joined a school group of students with similar interests. Maybe look into clubs and such? And how great that your bf is close! You aren't alone!
Nathalie - Curls and Bags says
ik vond het eigenlijk nooit erg om in het begin alleen in de les te zitten… die vriendinnen komen altijd wel na een tijdje, don't worry 🙂
It's tough at first, but it always gets easier! Don't let it get you down. Also, you look fabulous. I'm loving those fall colors on you!
Have a great…or better… day! 🙂
A Southern Drawl
Charlotte Everaert says
komt wel goed! just smile friendly! 😉 mooi kleedje! xo
I'm so sorry Nikki! I can totally relate- in fact this is me every day being a full time student. It can be really hard to get into the swing of things and start meeting people. I will keep you in my prayers!
And those shoes are sort of amazing <3 Alex
Inge / Fashion En Vie says
Ik had dat ook de eerste keer op de unief, ik kende helemaal niemand maar serieus, na een paar lessen leer je sowieso mensen kennen (ik ben ook niet de sociaalste) dus het gaat wel over 😉 Veel succes!
Nikki, been there, done that. I always get quiet then worry I am being quiet, thus making things worse. Not to worry though, just be yourself and don't let it bother you! The moment yo stop worrying will the moment it all comes 😉 Hope you have a better next day at school! Enjoy 🙂 Oh, and lovely look! xo
Alice Sabbatini says
I'm sure it gonna be better day after day. Good luck with this new adventure ^^
Nina Dhollander says
I'm transferring this year, so I'm gonna be in a class with a bunch of people I've never met but who've all known each other for three years, so pretty nervous as well! It really helps if you have friends / a boyfriend outside class to hang out with 🙂
Sara Strauss says
I'm sorry about your crappy day! Meeting people is hard, but you'll make friends! It will most likely be when you're least expecting it! At least you looked super cute! Love your heels!
Kristian Satterlee says
First off- I adore that dress and I adore you in that dress.
Second… Meeting people is hard and awkward. But you made progress with that girl who asked to sit by you, and as for those other two you recognized- well, they may have been shy and thinking you didn't recognize them either. I hope (though I would be scared to do this myself) you take the initiative and ask to sit by some people or maybe even see if they want to grab a cup of coffee or something! Things get easier as routines get going.
Also, hopefully, that one neighbor will have homework and not be able to party as much.
Ah I love the outfit! Too bad your day sucked. It'll get better – new places and things are always hard. You'll meet people as you go I'm sure! Ahh I'm jealous of your GTA5. I don't have any video game consoles (my ex had one that I used to play on all the time) so I feel so left out when cool games come out 🙁
Aww I hope it gets better! First days are always so hard, but once you make the first friend, it all gets better! i'm the same, it takes me awhile to open up to new people, but once the awkwardness (which is generally me talking too much in fear of silences) passes, its all worth it.
My first week of classes went the same. Things will get better with time!!
Hannah Gottlieb-Graham says
I'm so sorry to hear that you had a bad first day 🙁 I've always been extremely social, but I honestly felt quite shy when I started college three weeks ago. I hate the awkward small talk and feeling like you need to prove yourself to people in order to make friends. Just remember to stay true to yourself and you'll find people who are genuine and caring, too! I've also found that giving compliments to cute girls really boosts their confidence and makes them want to talk to you! A simple "I love your scarf today" always starts a conversation!
I'm sorry you had a bad first day at the new university, but you will meet kind people like you. I believe that God brings the right people into our lives, so it's just a matter of time before they show up. Your best days are still in front of you. It's so good that your boyfriend is close and you will support each other. I wish you have happy days in this new university and accomplish your dreams.
Your dress looks so beautiful on you and the shoes are perfect with this dress!
Sorry you had a rough first day, but it seems like it will just keep getting better.
Love your plaid dress, it's so perfectly fall!
Lauren O'Neill says
Aww, sorry you had such a bad first day! New schools are hard, especially when people you know don't know you back! Hang in there girl. It'll get better 😀
I hope you are able to at least start an in-class friendship with the nice girl from your second day. It's so nice to have a friend in class with you!
Exploring My Style
lovely dress baby!
i have a new look
NEW OUTFIT IN MY BLOG: SEA COLORS
Nikki | The Ginger Diaries says
IT'S AWESOME. Though, you can't hit everything and therefor crash a lot and sometimes your car explodes without a clear reason. But I've been loving the extensive free roam options! So much fuuuun!
Nikki | The Ginger Diaries says
I am way to nervous to do this, but after this third day I'm getting to know a few faces and it help that we all see each other every day. Now I start to know who else is alone and we're sitting together in class. I feel super relieved!
Thank you for your kind words Kristian!
Nikki | The Ginger Diaries says
Deden ze op de hogeschool ook altijd! Hier zit ik zowat tussen alle studenten door elkaar hé, want ik heb vakken uit de drie bachelorjaren. Maar ondertussen heb ik een beetje door die er nog alleen is en zo vinden we elkaar wel ^^
Aww, I'm sorry you had such a bad first day! 🙁 I was so nervous my first day at uni too – I got all excited when I recognised someone from a tour I'd done before the semester started. He recognised me too, but we had both forgotten each others names…haha. Once we got that out of the way we had a good giggle about it, and still do sometimes! We are still friends years later. 🙂
Try to remember that even though you are scared and nervous there are other people feeling the same! It's good that girl came and spoke to you on the second day – she was probably scared and nervous and wanted to make more of an effort by saying hi first on the second day. Once you feel a little more comfortable you can always try striking up a conversation with someone sitting by themselves 🙂 First days are always too scary for things like that, give yourself a little more time to adjust and don't feel too under pressure. You have an entire course of time! 🙂
Away From The Blue
Nikki | The Ginger Diaries says
Great idea! I have been thinking about that as well. The club related to my study organises a lot of cultural trips (think opera, concerts and citytrips) that I'd love to go on but I haven't found their stall yet so I haven't been able to register haha!
Amélie De Rycke says
Terrible first day maar incredible outfit cutie!
I know, right! When you are a grown up, making new friends is hundred times more difficult than it was being a child. At least you could just share a toy. But now it needs more thought and effort put to it. 🙂 I am sure the new place will become like home pretty soon!
But you looked really good doing it 😀 Really!
Michelle elizabeth says
Im sorry you had such a bad first day! But you should know you have AMAZING, long legs!
simply gorgeous, love the colours in your dress – they compliment your hair so well! x
petra lorietta says
oh the dress is so pretty!:) you look amazing!♥
Sabrina Kwan says
You're looking so gorgeous in that dress. The colours go perfectly with your beautiful hair! And aw, I'm hoping you get used to the new routines soon. I'm still not quite used to my new college setting so I get the sentiment! Here's to wishful thinking 🙂
I know exactly how you feel!!
But trust in me, you'll find a lot of friends!!I ound my boyfriend and a lot of friends too!!Just talk, say something, you'll never do a wrong thing!!
I send you a hug!!
Inez Taeymans says
En eerste dagen zijn vaak zo, dat komt zeker wel goed na een paar dagen 🙂
Kacie Cone says
Love this dress! The shoes look so good with it!
Kaysie Garza says
College feels extremely weird sometimes when you don't fit into the "get drunk until 2am" crowd. It will get better!
And you totally should come to Texas to feel the heat. It's perfect right now – hot in the day, fresh and cool at night.
huh?! i read the title and then saw your pretty smile (plus darling checkered dress) and got confused for a sec. after reading on i can see how you felt awkward and i'm sure the hunger didn't help either. rest assured you are not alone Nikki,
1st days at school or otherwise can sometimes suck. i usually set it up for myself by repeating the words "it's always worse before it gets better", my own little mantra to get through the hard times and know that they are passing moments i won't ever recall as swiftly as one filled with pizzas + a swell boyf. i am happy to hear day 2 was a bit better though! xo
Audrey (hkittygirl) says
Hope university gets better and that you find a ton of new friends! I'm sure there are plenty of people searching for a friend, so just give it time.
On the bright side, you look absolutely adorable!
Heel koddig kleedje!
Marlies (GM&PB) says
Het wordt beter! Ik had exact hetzelfde gevoel op mijn eerste dag en daarna is alles goed gekomen:) Veel succes alleszins en keitof kleedje!
Liesbeth (candyandtreats) says
Je zag er nochtans stralend uit, ik zou zo naast je zijn komen zitten 🙂
Bij mij was dat in het begin ook niet evident hoor, maar het wordt sowieso beter!
i'm sorry to hear you had a bad first day but it will definitely get easier and you will meet a lot of new people and make friends with them, everyone else is probably just as nervous as you are. hope you're feeling better about it all by now!
little henry lee
Jamie Rose says
Aw I'm sorry the introduction session didn't go well. Sometimes getting some rest makes everything seem so much better though. At least the next day was better!
I really would love to play GTA5 sometime soon. I've heard it's really great.
aah maak je geen zorgen! niemand kent iemand daar
en je leert vast nog mensen kennen, die eerste dagen zijn voor iedereen een beetje onzeker en eenzaam.
Dress your life. says
Veel succes met je tweede week en maak je maar geen zorgen want het is heel normaal dat je je de eerste dag(en) wat akward en onwennig voelt :). Die vrienden gaan automatisch komen en waarschijnlijk zitten er nog zo'n honderden in uw les die hetzelfde gevoel hadden :)! Mijn eerste les was ook vrij eenzaam en halverwege het jaar hadden we een hechte groep van 10 man ofzo ;). Geniet er allesinds van!!
Nikki | The Ginger Diaries says
That crowd seems to reside in the studio right above mine. Gosh, they make so much noise!
Thank you for your comment, do you have a blog too? I'd love to see it!
Beauty Follower says
The cutest plaid dress i ve every seen!
Dorien Dooms says
Ah zo stom, hopelijk is't al beter! Ik ben daar ook echt slecht in, vooral omdat ik ook ouder ben dan bijna iedereen daar. But at least you looked gorgeous! Dat kleedje is echt geweldig 🙂
Dress your life. says
Je mag me altijd smsen als eens een eenzaam momentje hebt, maar ondertussen zal het al wel beter zijn zeker 😉 Die schoenen en jurk zijn zoooo mooi tesamen btw!